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Direct Selling

The re-emergence of direct selling is yet another growing trend that will ensure the future success of the network marketing industry. On this page we will discuss the concept of going direct, why it is becoming more popular and how you can capitalise on this growing trend to secure your financial future.

 

Direct selling is not a new concept of delivering products and services to the marketplace. It has been around for thousands of years. Traditionally, farmers would travel miles to deliver their daily produce to local markets, selling their goods directly to the consumer. However, through the evolution of the business world we have moved away from this method of delivering goods straight to the consumer, we now choose to involve third parties, either through policy or convenience, better known as the “middleman”. This has significantly impacted the end price of our products and services.

So let’s look at some examples:

How much does it cost to buy the latest pair of Nike shoes?

Now ask yourself how much does it cost Nike to manufacture that same pair of shoes?

Today it is estimated that a pair of Nike joggers would cost about $5 to manufacture and yet you pay well over $100 for them. Do you know why? To start with, think of all the distribution channels that a pair of Nike shoes needs to go through to get the shoes from the manufacturing floor to the retail outlet before they can be sold. There are international, national and regional distributors, transport costs and of course the profit margin of the retail outlet selling the shoes. Add to this the cost of advertising and marketing the brand name and it’s easy to see why we are paying over a $100 for a pair of Nike shoes.

If we were to single out the marketing budget of Nike, how much do you think they spend sponsoring the likes of Tiger Woods, Maria Sharapova, LeBron James, Derek Jeter, Ronaldo and the Brazilian soccer team? The company won’t say exactly what it pays for names like these, but obviously it isn’t cheap. Tiger Woods, for example, is the world’s highest paid athlete, earning approximately $87 million a year. Why does a company like Nike pay so much for Woods? Simple, he has what it takes to be marketable. He is articulate, attractive, an excellent role model, clean-cut and scandal free. Essentially the perfect walking, talking billboard! Now add to this the cost of Nike TV commercials and roadside billboards, who do you think is paying for it all? That’s right, the end customer.

We are not just talking about Nike, the same could be said about Coca Cola. How much do you think it takes to manufacture a can of coke? Sure, these are large international companies but the same can be said about local businesses as well. My family own and operate a sheep and cattle farm in the south-east part of NSW, Australia. What price do we get for the meat on our sheep and cattle? Anywhere from about 50c to $2.00 per kilogram. What do you pay at the butcher for our meat? Anywhere from $8 per kilogram for mince to $35 per kilogram for scotch fillet steak. It doesn’t make sense, the middleman makes all of the profits. Wouldn’t it be nice to only be paying $2.00 per kilogram for steak.

In the modern day business world, the middleman makes up a significant proportion of the end cost, so the question you are now starting to ask is: why should the middlemen make all the profits? Smart entrepreneurs are now looking for a better way – direct selling.

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With recent advances in technology, mainly communication methods and the internet, manufacturers are now capable of selling straight to the end user. As seen in the diagram below, by-passing the middleman and selling direct to the consumer can save the consumer money. This promotes greater customer loyalty and creates a win-win situation for both the manufacturer and consumer.

“The best investment I ever made!”
Warren Buffet (Billionaire investor)- In regards to direct selling

There are many large international companies capitalising on the concept of direct selling. A good example, with huge international success is Dell computers. Dell sells their products much cheaper to the consumer by by-passing the middleman, enabling the customer to buy direct from the manufacturer.

Many Fortune Five Hundred companies are also taking advantage of direct selling and relationship marketing. Some companies no longer have a choice in the matter, with purchases of stocks, mortgage loans and other financial services easily made over the internet. Brokerage companies have been forced to give their cliental direct access to these markets, taking direct selling to an extreme where through internet banking you can by-pass human interaction altogether.

Business analysts continually suggest that this is the way of the future, a trend that cannot be stopped. Those who choose to take advantage of it will be rewarded handsomely. So how can the everyday person take advantage of this trend?

Network Marketing. Going direct through referrals is a concept that has been around for years. Now the opportunity for international success through global networks is enormous and immediate. Network marketing is a business model that allows everyday people to take full advantage of going direct. Those who treat network marketing like a serious business venture will find it to be very rewarding.

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The Latest Business Trends

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The Latest Business Trends

Business Trends

At any given time there are several emerging business trends in society. In particular, if we were to single out one of the driving forces behind many of the economic trends over the past the 60 years it would have to be that of the baby boomers. Since the time they were born they contributed to the rapid increase in sales of baby food and nappies back in the 50s, schools and education in 60s, car sales in the 70s, the real estate boom in the 80s and the fast food chains and mega supermarkets in the 90s. Leading economic forecasters have used these trends to predict where the baby boomers will spend their money next and in particular were able to forecast the current emerging business trends in the Health and Wellness and Financial Services industries.

A new wave of entrepreneurs coupled with advances in technology has lead to a changing business environment. For example, the telephone has been a primary source of communication for over a century, but utilising our telephones to trade stocks, to send and receive photos and to surf the internet, is a new business trend that is a result of synergistic technologies. Although the elements of these trends have been around for years, the trends themselves emerge when the timing is right and when several factors come together. The health and wellness industry for example, has been with us for centuries, but it took the convergence of the aging baby boomers, with advancements in medical science, to create the critical mass of this emerging trend.

Modern day consumers want speed, variety, quality, customerisation (tailored to the customers needs) and choice. As the products that we consume become more sophisticated and complex, consumers are demanding a quality relationship with the provider of these goods and services. They want the products to deliver what the advertising promises. Educated consumers are now choosing to go direct, building a relationship directly with the parent company, which is fundamentally a different concept from the way we have done business in the past.

Going direct through referrals is a concept that has been around for years, but the opportunity for financial advances through access to global networks is enormous and immediate and one that business-minded people should not miss out on.

A number of young entrepreneurs have already spotted this trend. Michael Dell, founder and chairmen of ‘Dell’ computers is destined to become the new Bill Gates in the next decade, and is the richest person in the world under the age of forty today. One of the most admirable CEOs in America, Michael Dell, has a philosophy that is brilliant, uncomplicated and right online with this emerging economic business trend. He creates a relationship directly with the customer and sells high performance products. Using this direct, relationship model, ‘Dell’ sells approximately $25 million per day, directly to the consumer, by-passing the middleman, saving the consumer money and creating better customer loyalty.

The going direct concept coupled with building relationships between manufactures and consumers is the essence of the principles of network marketing. More importantly, it is a natural thrust of todays economy. Network marketing uses relationships to introduce new customers to a parent company so that they can buy direct from the manufacturer. Although this network marketing business environment is not yet so obvious and many will miss its significance, those people that adopt this system early will be rewarded handsomely.

Unless you are networking, you will soon be not working 
Dr Denis Waitley

Not everyone will see the rise of network marketing as a main stream method of doing business, just like 50 years ago people dismissed the business concept of franchising. Not too long ago people use to laugh at franchises, just as some people shy away from network marketing. Congress almost outlawed franchises with a bill nearly making them illegal, falling short of passing by only 11 votes. Today this vehicle is responsible for over a third of retail sales in America. Of course franchising was not for everyone, but those people who were open and willing to consider new ideas and who had the courage to take action in a changing business environment profited handsomely.

Today people are willing to risk hundreds of thousands, even millions of dollars to open franchises, hoping to capitalise on a business trend that if they acted on decades ago would have rewarded them enormously. Network marketing in the new millennium has entered the main stream and may become more prolific and popular than that of franchises. Unlike franchising however you are only risking your time and effort and not your fortune or a mountain of debt. With network marketing you dont need inventories and you do not need to create and manufacture the goods and services yourself, you are simply the direct in going direct.

Network marketing is not just becoming mainstream, it is starting to become the dominant market trend and one that cannot be stopped. The real question people should be asking is how can they benefit from it?

Network marketing is no longer something to joke about, it is creating more millionaires today than the dot com boom industry did before the bubble burst. As with any opportunity timing is half of the success and execution is the other half. You have no control over the former as the business trend will emerge without you. The jet is leaving the ramp, you can either be on it or miss out. The second half to capitalising on this trend is in the execution, by doing your homework and finding the right company, all you need then is commitment and the desire to learn from those who came before you, and this webpage is designed to help you with exactly that.

So if youre ready to take full advantage of this changing business environment, we suggest you do your homework and work your way through this site as we help you identify the right opportunity and how to become successful.

 
 

Closing the deal:– Learn how to close your network marketing prospects

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Closing the deal Learn how to close your network marketing prospects

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Closing the deal is one of the most satisfying achievements in any business, particularly network marketing and therefore learning to improve your closure technique is a good investment.

Important Note: This closing the deal page is one of the final steps towards developing your prospecting technique. If you havent already reviewed the preceding network marketing prospecting pages we suggest you do so now, such that it all makes sense. If you have read the rest of this chapter, great, its time to get excited as we discuss the follow up.

A simple two step approach to winning the follow up and successfully closing the deal

To try and simplify the closing the deal process we have created a simple 2 step process that you should consider when contacting youre prospects to discuss their response to the initial information you provided them.

  1. Continue to develop the relationship, and
  2. The sales pitch

Closing the deal step #1 – Developing the relationship

Firstly, when ever meeting or phoning your prospect to conduct the follow up it is important that you continue to build rapport with that person, as you dont want to give the impression that you are just trying to sell them something. A good way to do this is to ask them questions about things you have learnt about them during the relationship building stage of the prospecting process. For example, if you learnt that they were going to see a football game, ask them about the game; if one of their kids (best if you can remember their name) had a star role in the school play, ask them about the play etc.

This relationship building phase is a very important step towards closing the deal as your prospect will always be more receptive towards you if you have taken an active interest in them. People love to talk about themselves, so if you can show that you listened and were interested in what they were saying in your previous encounters, you have gone a long way towards creating a winning relationship. This step also develops an aspect of trust from your prospect that would enable them, if they so choose to join your business, to feel comfortable in coming to you for advice.

The next step to successfully closing the deal is to approach the sale. At this point of the conversation it is important that you communicate your intentions. After you have had a brief relationship building conversation, it is important that you change the focus so you can discuss your objective, the business. You can go on to initiate this conversation by saying:

….the reason Im calling you is to ask if you had a chance to review the information I gave you?

If the answer is no, you shouldnt be disappointed, but there is a fair chance your prospect isnt interested in what you have to offer. If they were not bothered to review the information in the time you gave them, there is a good chance they are not really interested in fixing their problems, so this is just another way of pre-qualifying your prospects. Additionally this question will help to determine how motivated they are. In our experience the best networkers are the ones that take a pro-active approach and are motivated right from the start.

A good tip to remember is that if you are not actively involved in solving your problems, there is a fair chance that the problem will never go away. Therefore unless your prospect offers a legitimate excuse, you are probably best to cross them off your list and explain to them that your opportunity only works for people who are self motivated and actively working towards achieving their dreams and that maybe in the future the opportunity might come at a better time. Having said this it is important that you remain friendly with your prospects at all times, even if your prospect has indicated that they arent interested in your offer.

If their response is yes they have reviewed your material, great your now ready to make the sale.

Closing the deal step #2 – What to say when your prospect has reviewed your business information

The key concept behind a successful follow up and you closing the deal is to get your prospect thinking about the positive aspects of your business opportunity. It is important to distinguish that by positive aspects we mean those as they are perceived by your prospect, which are not necessarily the same positive aspects that you see.

Additional to this, one of the biggest tips we can give you is that the person asking the questions is the person in control of the conversation. Learning to ask the right questions can go a long way towards closing the deal and is an important skill to master in the prospecting process. By the right questions we mean those that will return a favorable response. When you put these 2 important concepts together you have a powerful formula for success. That is, by asking the right positively geared questions, you are both in control of the conversation and to some extent their response. Using this technique will assist you closing the deal as your prospects will essentially sell themselves.

by asking the right positively geared questions you are both in control of the conversation and to some extent their response

For example if you were to ask:

What did you think about….?

This allows your prospect to discuss both the pros and cons and more often than not they will go on the defensive straight away. Therefore a better question to ask would be:

What did you like about …..?

This now limits your prospect to focus on the positives. The more positive your prospect is towards the information you offered them, the greater the chance of making a sale. This is a skill used and taught by the most successful salespeople in the world.

If they do respond on the negative and try to dismiss your offer straight away, try to regain control by re-asking the question?

Ok, but was there anything you did like about what you saw?

If they respond negatively again, accept that they are genuinely not interested and concede that with such a negative and narrow minded attitude you wouldnt want to be working with them anyway. Remember — professionals sort, amateurs convince — this is just another step in the qualifying process. Thank them for their honesty then change the conversation to finish on a positive note.

In a typical response to this question, most of your prospects will highlight the positive aspects of your business opportunity. Take note as these factors will become critical in your final sales pitch when closing the deal. Remember you want them to continue to focus on the positive, so try to get your prospect to elaborate on these positive aspects as much as possible. For example if they respond by saying they like the products, your goal is then to get them to go into more detail as to why they like the products. This deepens the pre-selling process as essentially they are convincing themselves as to why they should look into this further.

Once they have started to concede that there are a number of positive aspects to your opportunity, your next goal is to marry your solution with their goals.

Do you see how (what they like about the business) could help you to (achieve their hot button)?

If they are going to have objections about your offer this is where they will normally come up. Remember – to be in control of the conversation you need to be the person asking the questions. If they dont have any objections, and they continue to speak positively about your opportunity great, skip ahead and go straight into your final sales pitch.

Closing the deal – Objections

If your prospect gives an objection then you need to regain control of the conversation and get your prospect to reiterate their hot buttons. I understand what youre saying and I know how important it is that you pay your childrens tuition (or what ever your prospect hot buttons are). But imagine if a home business (or your opportunity) could help you to secure your childrens education (or what ever your prospect hot buttons are), how would this make you feel?

Straight away youre back on the positive. Another approach to consider is offering them a solution to their problem that appears out of reach or too hard for them and then to follow it with an easier / more favourable alternative.

What would happen if you couldnt achieve (hot button)?

The goal of this question is to get them to focus on the negative. Follow it with:

How would it make you feel?

This now brings in their emotions and the potential pain that goes with it. It makes them think about the negative impact of failure and basically highlights the fact that if they dont act, this is where they will end up. Your response is now to agree that it sounds difficult and to offer an alternative solution.

That sounds terrible… you know what, our team is pretty supportive and our training program can get you started pretty quickly. I believe that working together we can give this fair go, what do you say? Or you can dive deeper again.

How long would it take you to save for your childrens tuition (or what ever your prospect hot buttons are) in your current situation? Normally they will respond with something like never or forever. Try getting them to put a figure on it (eg 10 years, 20 years etc.) this way you can compare it to something. Your goal here is to, again, highlight that unless they act, they will probably not reach their goals. For example, if their hot button was something to do with spending more time with family and it is going to take them 20 years in their current situation to achieve their goal, you can respond with something like: geez that does sound hard, I mean in 10 years time your kids would have grown up and by that stage it might be too late

OR in 10 years Im going to be 55, I dont know if I could wait that long.

As a general rule, if you ever receive a negative response, it is ok to challenge (question) their beliefs but you dont what to argue (try to convince). There are a number of good old clichés that work well.

I understand what youre saying, but the most important lesson I learnt in life was; to get what you have never had, you must do what you have never done. The only way you are going to achieve your dreams is if you are willing to have a go at them. Im offering you the tools and support to help get you there. Its obvious that youre passionate about your dreams and you definitely appear to have the qualities that were looking for. If youre willing to give (achieving their hot buttons) a serious go, Id love to get you started and to meet our team. So what do you say?

Please refer to our overcoming objections page for more details about how to deal with objections (coming soon)

Closing the deal – The final sales pitch

The final sales pitch should be a reinforcing statement that basically highlights that you can help this person to overcome their problems and provide the necessary support along the way. As stated above it might be something like:

Its obvious that you are passionate about your dreams and you definitely appear to have the qualities that were looking for. If youre willing to give achieving (their hot buttons) a serious go, Id love to get you started and meet our team. So what do you say?

At this point their response will either be favourable or not. Regardless it is important that you remain friendly with your prospect and never argue. Remember – professionals sort, amateurs convince.

Important Ethical and Moral Note: 
We strongly encourage that you prospect in an ethical way. If you are prospecting a person who you believe is not suited to your opportunity or does not have the skills you believe are necessary to be a part of your team, you need to inform this prospect that you dont think that this opportunity is right for them. Your job is to find the right people, not just the willing. Do not recruit distributors just for the sake of building your downline, to do so will only provide short term gain and long term pain as you struggle with retention and a breakdown in relationships. Additionally this can negatively impact on the reputation of your company as well as the network marketing industry as a whole. Your goal is to find self-motivated individuals, who you believe, will actively work towards building a network marketing business and achieve their goals.

Whilst many network marketers are faced with this moral dilemma frequently, trust us when we say to take an ethical approach. Not only does it do the right thing by your prospect, your business, your company and the industry, youd also be surprised how much more attractive your business will become once your prospects are aware that you only recruit the best.

Good Luck!

Closing the deal summary:

  • Continue to build the relationship and demonstrate you are interested in their lives by asking relevant questions.
  • The person asking the questions is the person in control of the conversation.
  • Asking the right questions can generally dictate how the prospect will respond.
  • Get your prospects to highlight the positives of what you have to offer.
  • Get your prospects to understand how your business opportunity could help to achieve their hot buttons.
  • Reinforce that your solution provides the knowledge and support to help them to overcome their problems (hot buttons).
  • Take an ethical approach to prospecting — if you do not think your prospect is capable of running a successful network marketing business, tell them in advance.

http://www.network-marketing-business-school.com/network-marketing-prospecting.html

How to achieve likeability

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“Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go.” Oscar Wilde

Awe-inspiring enchantment can occur in jungles, marketplaces, and the Internet. It causes a voluntary and lasting (at least until the guerillas leave your hut) change of heart and mind and therefore action. It does not simply manipulate people and help you to get your way.

Enchantment transforms situations and relationships.

A magnificent cause can overcome a prickly personality, but your ability to enchant people increases if they like you, so you should aspire to both. You’ll know that you’re likeable when you can communicate freely, casually, and comfortably with people.

Accept Others

Let’s start with your attitude. If you don’t like people, people won’t like you. That’s simple enough. And to like people, you need to accept them. Then, if you accept them, they’ll accept you. This is what you need to understand about acceptance:

  • People are not binary. People are not ones or zeros, smart or dumb, worthwhile or worthless. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, positives and negatives, competencies and deficiencies.
  • Everyone is better than you at something. If you have a tough time accepting others, it’s probably because you think you’re superior to them. However, you’re not superior to every person in every way.
  • People are more similar than they are different. At a basic level, almost everyone wants to raise a family, do something meaningful, and enjoy life. This is true across races, creeds, colors, and countries. You probably have lot in common with people you don’t like.
  • People deserve a break. The stressed and unorganized person who doesn’t have the same priorities as you may be dealing with an autistic child, abusive spouse, fading parents, or cancer. Don’t judge people until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes. Give them a break instead.
  • We all die equal. At the end of your life, you’re going to be a mass of tissue and bone that reduces to a pile of dust like everyone else, so get over yourself. Death is the great equalizer.

Make Crow’s Feet

If you want to make a good first impression, smile at people. What does it cost to smile? Nothing. What does it cost not to smile? Everything, if not smiling prevents you from enchanting people. If you don’t believe that smiling is useful, answer these questions:

  • Do you like to do business with grumpy people?
  • Do you know anyone who does?
  • Do you think that angry people get what they want?

The key to a great, George-Clooney-esque smile is to think pleasant thoughts. If you’re grumpy inside, it’s hard to have a smile that lights up a room, and the most you’ll accomplish is a “fake smile.”

Anatomically speaking, a fake smile only uses the zygomatic major muscle—the one that runs from your jaw to the corner of your mouth. It’s easy to control this muscle, so it leads to fake or “Pan American smiles” (called this because flight attendants on Pan American weren’t truly happy to see passengers).

A real smile uses the orbicularis oculi muscle too. This is the muscle that surrounds your eyes—it makes you squint and produces “crow’s feet.” A real smile is so special that it has its own name: the Duchenne smile in honor of Guillaume Duchenne, a French neurologist.

So when you meet people, think pleasant thoughts, fire up the orbicularis oculi muscle, make crow’s feet so deep that they can hold water, and skip the botox treatments and facelifts to increase your likeability.

13 Incredibly Simple Ways to Overcome the Fear of Failure

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Imagine if you could do anything in the world without feeling fear or any negative feelings whatsoever.

The fear of failure is instilled in us from early childhood because of overly protective parents. It’s not easy to hear the words “No!” over and over again.

After awhile you start getting cautious about what you do. You constantly look to an authority figure to see if it’s okay.

As we grow, this negative belief becomes unconscious. You don’t even know it’s there. You just live your life as best as you can.

Overcoming fear of failure is not easy by any means, but it can be done, especially if you are determined to take your personal growth to the next level.

There is no magic pill that will transform you into a fearless hero, only steps that will take you closer to freedom from the imaginary jail cell of your mind.

 

1. Identify the Root Cause

“Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald

Where does your fear of failure originate?

Sit down, take a few deep breaths, ask yourself when your fear of failure was formed, and observe what you see, feel, or hear.

When you see what caused your fear of failure, you’ll also see that your mind’s interpretation is far from accurate.

If your parents were overly protective, or if you had a particularly strict teacher, you’ll see that they did it because they want the best for you.

It’s easy to see how the you of the past interpreted events as he or she did. But if you look at the event as an outsider, you will see that it had nothing to do with you.

It’s crucial to examine all of your negative beliefs, because they have a big influence on how you live your life.

2. Simplify

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” — Leonardo da Vinci

Complexity is hard to visualize, and if you try, you will feel overwhelmed. Everything will feel hopeless and not worth doing, because you just don’t know how.

When I began my online journey, I was overwhelmed to say the least. I had no idea of where to go, what to do, or how to do it.

When I simplified the tasks that I needed to do, it all became much easier. I had no problem taking action because I had broken everything down into actionable pieces.

And if I didn’t know what to do, I’d ask someone, or join a training program.

I took the task of starting a website and broke it down to coming up with a domain name, buying hosting, getting a website up and running, and getting a simple design.

It also didn’t hurt that I was determined to make it work. If you don’t have that fire burning inside of you, you should think twice about moving forward.

Find your passion, and boldly go where you have never gone before.

3. Failure is Inevitable

“It is foolish to fear what you cannot avoid.” — Publius Syrus

Let’s face it, failure is inevitable if you want to live a remarkable life. I know you want to live a life full of passion, meaning, and purpose.

We all do.

But it’s not going to happen if you succumb to your fears and try to look for a more comfortable way out, because there is none.

Sooner or later you will have to overcome the fear of failure, and you will have to overcome many other fears during your lifetime.

Sometimes it’s overwhelming, frustrating, and exhausting. I know, I’ve been there, but the more you move through tough periods, the faster you’ll grow.

If you want the life of your dreams, make failure a part of your life.

Embrace it.

4. Fail More. Succeed More.

“There is no failure. Only feedback.” — Robert Allen

The more you fail, the more you succeed.

I was lucky to learn that lesson early in my life. When I became a professional poker player, I was 18, and I already knew that the more feedback I got, the faster I would learn.

I crave constructive criticism. It is a chance for me to improve what I’m doing.

I never assume that I know it all, nor do I assume that I am above failure. Even the most successful people fail every single day.

The difference between the successful and the not-yet-successful is the realization that failure is simply a stepping stone, not a permanent event.

5. Failure is Temporary

“Failure is an event, never a person.” — William D. Brown

Failure feels permanent, but it isn’t. You and I both know that, but we don’t act like it is so.

You may imagine yourself failing and the movie in your head stops there. If you let the movie play, you will realize that that failure may be exactly what you needed.

It may be the messenger of the lesson you needed to succeed down the road. Failure isn’t easy, but it is what will make you the person you want to become.

I’ve failed more times than I can count, yet I still fear failure. The difference now versus when I was in my late teens is that I know that the fear of failure is just a thought.

It conjures up feelings in my body that feel bad. It has no bearing in reality. It is often exaggerated and out of control.

Most people never stop to observe their thoughts. And they never stop to ponder that their thoughts could be wrong.

Why give your thoughts all that authority if they make you feel bad?

6. Free Your Mind

“The mind is everything. What you think you become.” — Buddha

See your thoughts for what they are … thoughts.

Thoughts can be eliminated, feelings can be alleviated, and fears can be overcome.

You can do this by taking massive action and facing your fears. You can also use methods such as The Work, EFT, and meditation.

I have personally been using EFT since I was 16. I have been meditating on and off for the same time. And I recently got acquainted with The Work.

Here’s a video on EFT that shows you how you can use it right away:

 

 

There’s more to life than being a slave to your mind, your programming, and the beliefs of society. You think what you become, so make sure you get it right on the inside before you blame the outside.

So many people try to get more money, better relationships, and seek happiness only to end up where they started.

They seek something outside of themselves, when everything they wanted was right in front of them.

7. Shift Your Perspective

“Failure teaches success.” — Japanese Saying

Who taught you that failure was a bad thing?

It feels bad, so it must be bad. Is that really true?

Every belief and thought that makes us feel bad needs to be examined. What good does a fear of failure do us?

It’s easier said than done to eliminate negative beliefs, but it all starts with being aware that a problem actually exists.

The last thing you want to do is get mad at yourself for not being perfect. We all have our unique fears and they are there for a reason.

Your fears will help you grow in the way you need to grow. You realize your negative beliefs when they need to be realized. There is no rush. This is not a competition. You’re doing perfectly.

Look at each failure as a blessing in disguise. It is not through success that we become wise, but through our failures.

I learned this lesson particularly well when I played poker for a living for half a decade. In poker, luck is a big factor, which means that you can play well, but still lose for weeks and months.

It can be extremely frustrating, but what it teaches you is discipline, and it teaches you to constantly improve your game.

It taught me one of the most valuable lessons of my life, which is to look at the negative periods as times of learning.

The same goes for life. Whenever you’re faced with something particularly difficult, learn from it and grow, because it will pass.

8. Self Growth

“Supposing you have tried and failed again and again. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.” — Mary Pickford

We all have the same basic fears. While same get through them easily, others get stuck. Use your fears as signposts that tell you where you have room to grow.

Fear of failure is something everyone faces at one point or another. This isn’t the end of the world, but the beginning of an amazing journey.

I know you may feel like being afraid of failure is horrible. That is because you imagine it to be so in your mind. Look at the pictures and thoughts that come up when you think about the fear of failure.

What do you see? Do you see yourself failing in front of a large group of people, which then proceed to laugh and point?

They are nothing but thoughts. You can get through them if you want to. You’ve already taken the first step by reading this article.

Even if you wanted to go back to your comfortable existence, it’s already too late, because the seed has been planted by you reading this article ;)

9. Embrace Fear

“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Everyone is afraid to one degree or another. No one is different. It’s ingrown into our biological mechanism.

The sooner you befriend your fear, the faster you can keep moving forward. It is not fear that stops you from going after your dreams, but what you decide to do because of those fears.

You can reprogram the way you react to your fears, thoughts, and worries. Whenever I am working on something that is important, such as doing what I love, and a fear pops up, I know I will get through it.

The alternative is giving up, which isn’t an option.

If you are determined to go after your passion, your fears will become insignificant in comparison.

10. Take Action

“I failed my way to success.” — Thomas Edison

We have more knowledge at our fingertips now than ever before in history. The internet gives you access to endless amounts of courses, guides, and training programs.

No matter what you want to do, you can learn. It’s fantastic. But it can also be paralyzing and a breeding ground for fear.

The what if thoughts enter your mind and you start worrying about this and that. No matter what, if you take action, you will eventually end up in the right place.

When you blend action with the guidance that comes from your heart, your progress will be fast, powerful, and fulfilling.

You see, while most people sit at the sidelines waiting for the perfect moment, you will be out there learning, doing, and growing.

That is what will get you to the life of your dreams.

11. Imagine Your Future

“What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?” — Vincent van Gogh

Sometimes negativity helps.

Imagine your future if you let every fear you had control your life.

What does it look like?

Where would you end up?

Do you think you would regret it when you’re at the end of your life?

Now imagine your life if you had overcome every fear on your path. You would be living the life of you always desired.

You would look back at your life without regrets. Sure, you may have done some foolish things, but they just added some spice to your life.

You can sit home and feel sorry for yourself all you want, but it isn’t going to make your life different. Only you have the power to change your life, so you might as well start now.

12. Stay in the Now

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.” – Buddha

Most of us live in either the past or in the future.

We regret what we’ve done (or not done), or we worry about what’s to come.

Using the past and present is fine when done with a purpose, like #11 up there, but letting your mind run amok will do you no good, as you probably already know.

There are no problems in the present. You are okay right now. You have a roof over your head, you have food in the fridge, and you feel fine.

You would be fine without a roof as well. What would make it not okay is your mind, and the stories it tells around your situation.

Accept the gift that is the present moment.

Breathe, smell, hear, and enjoy who you are, right now. You already have the key to your happiness.

13. Follow Your Passion

“No man is a failure who is enjoying life.” — William Feather

Last, but definitely not least is to follow your passion. We both knew this was coming ;).

If you decide to follow your passion, you will be much more likely to blast through your fears.

You know, like me, that doing anything other than going after your dreams is not an option. I might feel secure in a regular job, but I would never be happy or fulfilled.

Sometimes I feel like I am not living life, but life is living me. I go with my feelings and my heart. I do what excites me.

It’s an interesting way to live, and I invite you to try it.

Overcoming fear of failure is as hard as you make it. When you face your fears, you will realize that they are nowhere as bad as you thought they would be.

So what will it be?

Your fears, or the life of your dreams?

About

Hi. I’m Henri. Born and raised in Sweden. I help people turn their passion into an online business that supports their lifestyle.
To learn how I can help you, click here.

 
 
 

How to Be Patient

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How to Be Patient

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Five Parts:Why are you impatient?Writing it DownOvercoming ImpatienceSeeing the Big PictureStepping Back

It has never been easy to be patient, but it’s probably harder now than at any time in history. In a world where messages and information can be sent across the world instantly, everything is available with only a few clicks of the mouse. Fortunately, patience is a virtue that can be cultivated and nurtured over time. You will be pleasantly surprised by how relaxation and peace of mind can impact the quality of your life.

 
 
 

 

Part 1 of 5: Why are you impatient?

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    Try to figure out why you are in such a hurry. For example: waiting for an important meeting to start! We tend to lose our patience when we’re multitasking or when we’re on a tight schedule, expecting the day to pass within only a few short minutes of busyness and chaos.

    • If you’re stretching yourself too thin, you should reconsider your to-do list before you attempt to change your natural reaction to an overwhelming situation.
    • Try to spread out your tasks so that you’re doing only one thing at a time, without leaving yourself twiddling your thumbs in eagerness of something to busy yourself with.
    • Delegate responsibilities to others if you can; this in itself may be a test of your patience, but you have to learn to share the load.
       
     
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    Pinpoint the triggers that often influence you to lose your patience. For example: When you are not doing anything! Impatience creeps in insidiously, and if you feel anxious, worried, or unhappy you may not even realize that the underlying cause of these feelings is impatience. To reduce the frequency of impatience, it helps to be aware of it.

    • Which events, people, phrases or circumstances always seem to influence you lose your cool? Sit down and make a list of all the things which cause you anxiety, tension, or frustration. At the core of most triggers is a reality that we have a hard time accepting. What are those realities for you?

     
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    Look for patterns. Being aware of your impatience also gives you a chance to learn from it and perhaps uncover a relationship or circumstance that is simply not healthy or constructive, and that you may have the power to change. Figure that out, and you can then think logically about the problem issue and decide whether or not your impatience is warranted or helpful. It usually isn’t, but when it is you can then figure out ways to fix the root problem rather than simply feeling stressed about it.

     
 

 

Part 2 of 5: Writing it Down

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    Keep a journal. For one to two weeks, whenever you get that rushed feeling and the sense of impatience, write down whatever it is that feeling is associated with (Example: July 1 – astronomy class). Make sure that you take notes consistently and consecutively each time the feeling occurs.

    • You will notice that you are more aware of (and subsequently more prepared for) the feeling of impatience. You will also be able to observe the sense of impatience objectively and which events give rise to it.
    • You may come to the conclusion that circumstances surrounding the feeling are not causing you angst — the feeling itself is. In these ways, you will be able to better control impatience when it besets you.
     
 

 

Part 3 of 5: Overcoming Impatience

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    Overcome bouts of impatience. In the long run, developing patience requires a change in your attitude about life, but you can immediately make progress by learning to relax whenever you feel impatient. Take a few deep breaths and just try to clear your mind. Concentrate on breathing and you’ll be able to get your bearings.

     
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    Let go if you can’t do anything about the impatience trigger. If there isn’t anything that you can do to resolve whatever has triggered your impatience, just let it go. Easier said than done, yes, but it’s possible, and it’s the only healthy thing to do.

    • Initially, you will probably find it difficult to let go if the matter is important to you — waiting to hear back after a job interview, for instance — but you should be able to alleviate impatience that’s caused by issues of less consequence (i.e. waiting in line at the grocery store).
    • If you make a concerted effort to be more patient in relatively inconsequential, short-term situations, you’ll gradually develop the strength to remain patient in even the most trying and enduring situations.
     
 

 

Part 4 of 5: Seeing the Big Picture

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    Remind yourself that things take time. People who are impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don’t like to waste time. However, some things just can’t be rushed.

    • Think about your happiest memories. Chances are, they were instances when your patience paid off, like when you worked steadily toward a goal that wasn’t immediately gratifying, or took a little extra time to spend leisurely with a loved one. Would you have those memories if you had been impatient? Probably not.
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    • Almost anything really good in life takes time and dedication, and if you’re impatient, you’re more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait, but most good things that do come don’t happen right away.
     
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    Remember what matters. Not focusing on what matters most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind, generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency to want something different right now.

     
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    Always remember that you will eventually get what you want. (This requires maturity and patience to understand and accept!) If you work hard at something, this may be the truth, but most of the time you have to be patient to get what you want.

    • For others, this may come as easy, but the only thing that matters is that you know how to occupy yourself, even in the dead of times.
    • Just remember, patience is a mental skill that you will never forget, so cherish patience as a major step for you in life. Impatience is something not to be proud of, but something that you should attempt to train yourself out of, before it is something that overthrows your life.
     
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    Always have a positive outlook in life. Being always positive is very imperative as possessing a sense of patience. Remember that life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

     
 

 

Part 5 of 5: Stepping Back

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    Expect the unexpected. Yes, you have plans, but things don’t always work out as planned. Accept the twist and turns in life gracefully. Keep your expectations realistic. This applies not only to circumstances, but also the behavior of those around you.

    • If you find yourself blowing up over your child or your spouse accidentally spilling a drink, you’re not in touch with the fact that people aren’t perfect. Even if the occasion is not an isolated incident but is instead caused by their repeated neglect and carelessness, losing your patience isn’t going to make it any better. That’s something to be addressed with discussion and self-control.
     
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    Give yourself a break. The meaning of this is twofold.

     

    First, take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing. Just sit quietly and think. Don’t watch television; don’t even read. Do nothing. It may be hard at first, and you may even feel impatient after a minute or two, but by taking some time out you can essentially slow your world down, and that’s important to develop the attitude necessary to develop patience.


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    • Second, stop holding yourself and the world around you to unattainable standards. Sure, we’d all be more patient if babies didn’t cry, dishes didn’t break, computers didn’t crash, and people didn’t make mistakes – but that’s never going to happen. Expecting the world to run smoothly is like beating your head against the wall. Give yourself a break! and for children go outside and play it helps you to not stress on it!
 
 
 
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THE RULES FOR BEING AMAZING

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Good Morning!! 🙂

It’s great to be taking over “Qnet for Today”. I know this will be a big learning for me while doing this. I hope you all enjoy and learn from this as well. Do let me know if you have any feed back or suggestions or any topics you want me to talk about.
I have recently come across a video by Robin Sharma – I think this summarizes a lot about what our business teaches us to be and what we all should aspire to be.
This is an AWESOME time to build our business, unleash our greatest potential and aim for iconic.The world needs you to shine more than ever. Let’s do this!
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